Why hire a wedding planner?

Getting married is an emotional decision and a big deal for a lot of us! We wait for a long time to find the right person, and when we do, we want to make sure we celebrate it in the best way possible! 

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We want our wedding to be perfect, our friends, families and the many guests to have a great time (without hopefully no hassles or complaints), and most importantly, we want to be able to enjoy our own wedding! 

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However, planning a wedding, no matter how big or small, can get overwhelming. If you’ve ever planned an event before—be it a birthday, get-together, or a surprise—you know what it takes to get things done. And get things done right.

The obvious questions start pouring in. “Where should we start?” “Whom should we contact?” "How should we budget for this?" “Is this the market rate or are we over-paying?” "Whom can we trust?" 

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As you can see, with the amount of details that go into planning a wedding, the number of choices available to choose from, and the fear of dealing with unforeseen circumstances, it causes the couple to feel stressed and confused. It's a highly emotional time and with growing expectations and conflict of ideas, comes growing pressure—almost to the point where you just want to get it over and done with. 

And, this is where professional and knowledgeable wedding planners come useful—someone who's neutral and who feels as passionately about your wedding as you do, someone who can keep it simple, work in your best interest and help you achieve your vision and most importantly, help you stay calm! 

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Surprise! Will you marry me, few days after?!

The wedding surprise.

There are many kinds of elopement weddings:

  • surprising your guests by making them believe they are going to a party—and it’s a wedding.
  • surprising your partner by telling her we're going to Australia—and instead, bringing her to New York!! 

Yes, it’s been 2 years since the adorable Hugo Pottiez decided to do the latter with his at-that-time beau, Aurélie! 

Normally, girls would complain that boys don’t help much with the planning—but Hugo single-handedly planned this wonderful day for the love of his life, where he told her they are heading to Australia, and instead got her to New York, then staged a surprise proposal for her here and few days after got married at Central Park! A memory I am sure they will cherish forever. 

Have a read on how Hugo made this totally happen. 


Their love story

You told Aurélie that you’re going to Australia. And you got her to NYC. How did you keep it secret from her at the airport?

Aurélie is a dreamy people and very easy to distract. So, when we were at the airport, I was constantly speaking with her. When I had to drop of the luggages, I made my her mother to call her, so that she could not see the destination. I always kept both boarding pass. Then we sat in a restaurant, had lunch with a nice bottle of wine, you know to make her a bit sleepy/dizzy.

At the boarding gate, of course "New York" was displayed. So I had to make something up. I told her it was an error of display. She was  listening music and reading books. So she did not pay attention much.

Where did you propose to her?

For the first 3 days, I rented an Airbnb in Brooklyn. So the first day, when we arrived we decided to cross the Brooklyn bridge to reach Manhattan. I did my proposal on the bridge!


Since when have you been planning this? 

Planning the proposal (2 days). Planning the whole wedding (4 months).

Do you have any tips for the men in case they want to plan a surprise wedding for their darling?

I do not have particular tips. I just did I wanted to do in the aim to make Aurélie happy. Just be enthusiastic, do not do something that you don't. That is the secret. I would say, if they want to get married, don't do it! Or do it your way!

After the proposal, what did Aurélie do? Where did she get her dress, make up from?

She was excited to get a dress. So I gave her some money and she got 2 days to find the makeup artist and the dress. Quite a very short time, but she managed and you know doing shopping in NY made her feel like Carrie Bradshaw!


After the wedding ceremony, where did you celebrate and how many people were invited? Did they fly for the reception or were these local people?

We went to a restaurant and had a limo tour. The day after, by chance I knew via Facebook that two old friends of I were in NY, so we decided to  meet at our place (in the 2nd Airbnb I rent in Manhattan). It was the occasion to celebrate the wedding with other people than us! When we came back in France, several month after, we made a party with family and friends at home

How did you sort out your permit / license to get married in NYC? Any site that helped you?

I spent lots of time on blogs and websites. I also asked advices to Mary Rose Engle (the reverend)

2 years later, what’s the fondest memory you have from that day?

The ceremony of course but also the moment we had to get out the taxi to meet the reverend and to celebrate the ceremony. I am kind of discreet/reserved person and I was a bit stressed to walk in the street dressed in a wedding suit with all eyes on us. But finally people did not care and I enjoyed every details of this day.

...and they now live happily every after! 

I hope you enjoyed this as much as I did. A big kudos to Aurélie for being totally sporty and excited about this and to go with the flow blindly, and this made it all the more magical. Not to mention, little did she know, that her 'trip to Australia' was going to be a life-changing moment of a lifetime! 


SO, if you are considering to pull off something similar, then as beautiful and amazing their story is, eloping and getting married requires careful planning. 

Here are 5 tips on planning a one successfully: 

  1. Make sure your appointed vendors know that this is a secret. They will be able to help you out and make sure the surprise isn't ruined. 

  2. Assign a Point Person and get some help: Make sure you spend a good amount of time in planning out the details. If you’re having some trouble planning or brainstorming about it, get help from a wedding planner or coordinator. 

  3. Make sure you have your story in place: If your partner starts to find something fishy, make sure you have a cover-up and remember what you told her, or you will get caught! 

  4. Permits and Passersby at Public spaces: If you're getting married at a public space (in Hugo's case, it was Central Park), make sure you have the right permits to access that space at the said ceremony date and time. It happens sometimes, that someone else could have booked for the same time and at the same place, and that's when you face clashes or need to hurry your ceremony up. Also, be prepared that you will have passersby that would stop to view and take photos. This is perfectly normally, so embrace the love and attention :) 

  5. The legals: This is the most important. For example: in Australia, legal requirements mean that only the guests can be surprised at the wedding. Both the bride and groom must sign a Notice of Intended Marriage form and have that lodged with a celebrant at least a month and a day before the wedding date. So make sure you get your homework done for this one and get your permits and legals sorted.

The legals in New York


If you are planning on having a surprise wedding in New York, please visit the site http://elopenewyork.com/ and obtain all the information that you need in order to have a legit wedding. This site also provides you with guidelines on locations and ceremony size, on obtaining parks special events permits, and much more.

To make it easier, I've pasted some important guidelines from their site, to give you a quick overview. I do strongly suggest that you visit the site and the links that I've provided below, to get thorough with all the information. 


  1. Find all your IDs (passport, drivers license, birth certificate, divorce papers if relevant, etc.)
  2. Decide if either of you will change your name.
  3. Buy a $35 Money Order at a drugstore - cheaper than a bank. You can now pay for your license by credit card, and you may even apply online for your license, up to 20 days ahead. 
  4. Go to one of the New York Marriage Bureau offices and apply for your marriage license. It is good for 60 days, and there is a waiting period of 24 hours before you can be legally married. If you have applied online, you must still go together and confirm your identities and certify the application. See cityclerknyc.com.
  5. If you are not a US citizen, make sure your home country accepts the regular New York City license, or whether you will also need to apply for an apostille (special certified stamp on your license). Just phone your consulate and ask if you need an apostille, or extended license. A majority of countries, including the UK and Commonwealth countries, simply accept a New York marriage license, so do Canadians, and many Europeans. 
  6. If you do need the apostille stamp, it is possible to return early the next business day to the Manhattan City Clerk's office after your marriage ceremony, get the license, and get the special stamp for a small charge. It's fairly painless, you can ask about the process when you apply for the license. This is ONLY possible if you have PICKED UP your license at the MANHATTAN OFFICE at 141 Worth Street, however.
  7. If you have been divorced or widowed, have documents and information regarding the previous marriage and spouse. You MUST disclose all previous marriages, including those in other countries.
  8. If you wish to be married at any City Hall, enquire when you apply for your license. They do not take appointments, but exactly 24 hours after they timestamp your license, you may line up at any bureau office (including the new facilities at 141 Worth street) with your witnesses and be married by the civil judge. The ceremony is simple, and they advise you the length is 2 minutes, so it's quick, except for the unpredictable wait and lining up :-) 
  9. To be married outside City Hall, or after 3:45 M-F, you must FIND A MARRIAGE OFFICIANT who is LEGALLY REGISTERED WITH CITY HALL TO CONDUCT MARRIAGES in NEW YORK CITY. The rules are a bit stricter to become a licensed officiant for NYC than in smaller cities in the state - so don't assume your officiant is registered hereOnce you find one, you may ask for their registration number.  If you wish, you can call City Hall with the officiant's license number to make sure they are registered: 212-669-2778. Contact staff@weddingsofnewyork.com if you'd like to discuss planning a wedding outside of City Hall. They will check their schedule and send you sample weddings and information. More info at weddingsofnewyork.com 
  10. Choose your legal witness(es), 2 persons over age 18, or ask your Marriage Officiant to secure a witness. You need a witness for City Hall, too.
  11. Buy a ring or two (not actually required by law)
  12.  Discuss your ceremony wishes with the officiant (if being married outside of City Hall).
  13. Sign the license. Witnesse(s) sign the license. Officiant signs license with official date and time.
  14. The officiant will congratulate you, and take back the signed license and they will file it for you. It will be mailed back to you in about 4 weeks or more. [Note: if you need the license immediately, you can return to the Manhattan Marriage Bureau at 141 Worth the next working day with the signed license, and they will check it and issue you a marriage certificate, for a fee. This is only possible if you apply for your license in Manhattan, and it is not an advertised service. They prefer to send the license by mail.]

In addition, here are three links that provide details on how to get a marriage license, find a New York marriage officiant, organize your ceremony, park permits, and have your marriage legally registered:

  1. Easy Steps on perfect elopement: http://elopenewyork.com/2009/01/easy-steps-for-perfect-elopement.html
  2. Step-by-step guide on how to elope in New York http://elopenewyork.com/2007/12/checklist-for-elopment-steps.html
  3. Park Special events Permit: https://nyceventpermits.nyc.gov/parks/

Surprise weddings, if pulled off well, can be an adventure of a lifetime, and I hope this post helps you with all the information you would need in order to get it all together. 

Wish you a fabulous wedding and happy planning!


Dee | hi@deeweddings.com

Officiant for Hugo and Aurélie: Rev. Mary-Rose | Wedding photography by: Kelly Williams

40 questions I want you to ask while planning your wedding at a raw space

Image courtesy: Ashley Caroline

Image courtesy: Ashley Caroline

Getting married at a raw space is a great experience for DIY couples, and for those who thoroughly enjoy the process of building something from scratch. It lets you get very creative and you can personalize your wedding, thus making it unique and truly representing yourselves.

However, because a raw space is a blank canvas to work with—transforming it into the wedding of your dreams requires careful planning. Unlike an all-inclusive restaurant or a banquet hall, arranging everything else is then likely to become your responsibility.

This would mean organizing a caterer, bartenders, staffing, renting of tables, chairs, barware, flatware, decor and lighting installations, figuring out the floor plan, renting of linens, napkins, and the list goes on. 

And so, to make sure you're heading in the right direction, and are not feeling overwhelmed, here's a list of questions I want you to make sure you have concrete answers to while working with a raw space: 

  1. Is the venue going to charge you a flat rental fee? What does this fee include? Is there a minimum headcount?
  2. Does the venue allow you to serve alcohol? 
  3. Does your venue have a preferred vendors’ list that they prefer working with? Will they allow you to bring vendors from outside. If yes, is there a fee associated with this?
  4. Does your venue have additional vendor recommendations such as nearby photo ops, a full list of hotels, rehearsal dinner venues, and ceremony locations?
  5. What's the wifi situation at the venue?
  6. Does the venue have a First aid kit? Note: Make sure to orient yourself with the nearest fire exit and fire extinguishers onsite. 
  7. What time can you start setting up at the venue and what time is hard out? What happens if a vendor or the venue in-charge takes longer to get out, on the day-of? What are the associated costs for overtime? Note: Usually venues will allow set up to begin post noon or at 3pm for a 6pm-1am event. Make sure your timings are mentioned in your contract, keeping in mind set up generally takes 3-4 hours and breakdown 2 hours—unless it's a massive set up and you need the space for longer. 
  8. Will your catering company take responsibility of providing staff for bussing, set up, cleaning and final breakdown? Will they help you place order for the rentals? Note: A popular company is Broadway Party Rentals. However, they usually provide a 3-4 hour time slot to deliver and pick up their items. And so, you need to make sure the delivery and pick up timings is included within your contract, or else you will be charged extra for using the space overtime.
  9. Does the space have a working kitchen, or will you need to work with your caterer to ensure they come with the food prepared and ready to serve? Does it have an oven? Does it have a refrigerator? Does it allow deep-frying? Can you use electric deep-fryers? Do you need additional power or a backup generator?
  10. Does the bartending company need to bring their ice buckets, ice, garbage cans, etc.? 
  11. Does your space allow live stations? Or ice-cream trucks? Or buffet with sternos, etc.?
  12. Does the space have handicap accessibility, with ramps or elevators if needed?
  13. Where is the loading area for vendors to access the space for set up?
  14. If your wedding is taking place in a multi-storey building, does it have a freight elevator? Who will operate the elevator on the day-of?
  15. What is the status of parking around the area and will you be providing valet services?
  16. If it's a fall or winter wedding, who will handle the coat check services and where will it be set up in the venue? Note: This should be near the entry to the venue. 
  17. Raw spaces require their venues to be left in broom-clean condition, after the event gets over. Who will be responsible to take care of this? Catering's staffing company or someone else?
  18. Who will collect all your cards and gifts after the wedding for you?  
  19. Do your vendors have the required licenses/Certificate of Insurance (COI), needed by the venue? Have they sent it over to them?
  20. Does your venue require you to purchase insurance? Note: It's always safe to purchase wedding insurance for raw spaces. Normally venues will have partnerships with insurance companies, but if not, some good recommendations are: WedSafe and EventHelper.
  21. Does your bartending company have all the permits and license required to serve alcohol at the venue?
  22. If catering and bartending are from two different companies, who will be using what area of the kitchen? Note: have them meet at the space together, to decide how they will be using the kitchen space between them. This is to make sure they have no friction on the day-of.
  23. Who will collect your wedding cake box for you to take home (if you've requested for this)?
  24. Does the venue provide toiletries for the restroom or do you have to provide baskets with all the good stuff?
  25. Are candles allowed in the venue? Note: Many couples use candles to fill the air with a fresh fragrance before the wedding celebrations begin. My personal favorite is Diptyque
  26. Have the DJ/live band and the AV team visited the space and figured out the power situation? Do they need to bring extension chords, mics and more wire?
  27. If you plan to have live band, have they checked the acoustics in the room to make sure the sound travels well?
  28. If you’re having artificial lighting, are they on dimmers? Last thing you need is an overly lit bright room. Note: Bistro lighting is a lot of fun as well.
  29. Have you made a clear list of all the DIY items that need to be placed around in the space, along with the person responsible for its set up and breakdown?
  30. Have you created a floor plan? Note: A good site is allseated.com for creating floor plans which couples can use. However, check with your venue to see what they use for floor planning.
  31. Does your venue have an in-house inventory list that you can rent from? Note: Some venues such as the Green Building and Ramscale Studios have in-house inventory of chairs, tables, high boys, etc. Find out if that is included in your package or if they can rent it out to you at a discounted rate. The rest of the items you can rent from outside.
  32. Have all your key vendors come in for a site visit (especially if they haven’t worked in the space before)?
  33. Have you scheduled a final walkthrough with all the key vendors at the venue, to go over all the details together one last time?
  34. Have you checked with each vendor, how long they will need for set up and breakdown and at what time will they arrive, given the event timings? 
  35. Have you created a timeline which lists all these timings in one place, and which you can share with all the vendors?
  36. Have you/your photographer visited the space around the time your ceremony will actually take place? This will ensure that you know what the natural lighting for the space will look like for that time of day.
  37. Who will choreograph your wedding ceremony and cue the wedding party and yourselves, on the day-of? What about cues for the speeches, toasts, first dance, etc. 
  38. Who will be your main point of contact from the venue, on the day-of?
  39. Will the venue assign you a security guard for the day-of? Or are you supposed to source it out yourselves?
  40. What is the rule with the exit doors? Note: Usually exit doors must have a four-foot clearance in front of them at all times.

That would be all for now! I am sure you will think of more questions when you get deep into planning and also because each venue is dynamic in nature. However, I am confident that by knowing answers to the questions above, you will have a great head start towards planning for your big day.

All the best and wish you a fabulous wedding.

Dee | hi@deeweddings.com


7 simple tips on approaching your wedding planning

So you’ve asked her to be your valentine. Popped the question. And now you're getting married! With the wedding season in full swing, here are 7 simple tips on how to approach your wedding so you can enjoy planning it without feeling overwhelmed or disappointed. 


At-home weddings: A step-by-step guide on hosting a wedding in your backyard, home and even your apartment.

At-home weddings: A step-by-step guide on hosting a wedding in your backyard, home and even your apartment.

At-home weddings offer a great setting for warm, intimate and personal celebrations with family and friends. A lot of couples wish to get married in their homes, backyards or their parents’ summer home. And then there is a ‘however’.